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‘It’s pissing me off’ people slam bride’s ridiculous request to ask bridesmaid to take out £20,000 loan to fund her wedding

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WE all want to do what we can to ensure that our loved ones can enjoy their wedding day.

But one bride was criticized for taking her demands too far and asking her bridesmaid to take out a £20,000 loan to help her on the wedding day.

The bride’s request has been rejected by social media usersCredit: Getty – Contributor

A friend shared the text message on social media, leaving people amazed at the bride’s ridiculous request.

The first message showed the bridesmaid that she could not afford the wedding costs that the bride was expecting.

It said, “Hey. Are you available to talk this week? I’m really not sure I can afford it all.

“With the outfit and the trips, we are approaching 20,000, which is essentially my student loan payment.

“I know how special you want this day to be, but is there any way we can reconsider some of the events and attire!”

A reasonable question for most, but the bride decided she wasn’t going to reconsider the wedding budget after all.

Instead, she asked her friend to take out a loan if she couldn’t pay it.

Her response was, “Hey girl. Sorry to say, but unfortunately not really. And I put this in my bridal party PDF.

“I’m not sure why it’s such a surprise. I’m sure you’ve been budgeting for this for a while?”

She went on to say that she was her best friend and expected to represent the bride well on the big day, regardless of the cost.

Bride’s ‘ridiculous’ wedding day rules cause guests to leave

“You’re included because you’re my best friend and I think you really represent me well for my big special day. I’d like to ask you to please find a way to make it happen, you know?” she continued.

“It’s a once in a lifetime thing. Don’t you have a high budget Amex? Maybe you can use that in a pinch and figure it out later?”

She then said she could ask someone to help her friend with a £20,000 loan, with only a ‘small’ amount of interest to be paid back.

But the bride really took the cake when she asked for a special gift for her bachelorette before the bridal party.

Do’s and don’ts of wedding dress codes

By Josie Griffiths, fantastic deputy editor and bride-to-be.

I will never forget the wedding I went to in October 2022, where a guest wore a white dress.

It was ill-fitting, knee-length and looked nothing like a real wedding dress, but that didn’t stop everyone from judging her.

The rules for wedding guest outfits – which are annoyingly stricter for women than for men – are designed to “not put the bride front and centre”, which is actually quite difficult to do on someone else’s wedding day.

But if you get it wrong as a guest, you end up looking a little weird to a lot of people who don’t know you personally.

It’s just not the occasion for your new white dress, no matter how much online stores like to dump them in the ‘wedding guests’ section.

I would avoid anything too tight/short and stay away from super formal dresses unless the dress code calls for it – you don’t want to be in a long sequin dress at a smart casual event.

Personally I don’t like black dresses either, it’s not a funeral.

Otherwise you should be pretty safe. Technically, wearing red means you’re in love with the groom, but that’s the kind of rule most people would scoff at these days.

Just to be safe, I always check what color the bridesmaids are after the Spanish wedding where I saw them walking down the aisle in the exact same dress I had in my Asos shopping cart a few weeks earlier.

If you’re unsure, it’s best to check with the bride… but if you’re already unsure about your dress, that might be the answer you need.

‘Are the girls planning on getting something special to give me as a gift during…
bachelor party?” she asked.

“I want to make sure it’s on your mind! No pressure, this is just the most stressful one I’ve ever planned so everyone can enjoy it and I really think I could use a treat!”

The post shared on the subreddit, Wedding Shaming, went viral with hundreds taking to the comments to share their thoughts.

Some found the request so extreme that they would simply block the bride.

One person wrote: “I don’t know why but the phrase ‘I think you represent me really well’ gives me the creeps. Like it’s a damn purse to make the bride look good. Ugh.”

Another commented: ““It’s once in a lifetime.” Yes, for the bride (maybe). That’s an insane amount to expect from someone else. Don’t even get me started on her wish for a friend to put it on a credit card. This must be fake.”

“No one in their right mind is going to spend that much on a friend’s wedding,” wrote a third.

Meanwhile, a fourth said: “My entire wedding cost less than £10,000. I can’t even imagine being expected to pay £20,000 to attend someone else’s wedding!”

“I hate this woman, I wouldn’t contact her again. Just disappear,” a fifth claimed.

Someone else added: ‘Block her and get on with life. Problem solved.”

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