James Brown was super certain that we live in a man’s world. And while I can understand where he was coming from in terms of toxic masculinity, there is absolutely no way that the people described below can take responsibility for keeping the world turning. I don’t even think they can keep the dish in their microwave working. You can’t convince me.

Reddit user –u/ii_abby asked women, “Ladies, when did you realize the bar for men has been set low?” And the responses were hilarious, disturbing, and (not at all) SHOCKING in equal measure.

1.“Strangers clap in McDonald’s parking lot when he takes diaper to trash.”

—Reddit user

2.“The neighbors (women) are all surprised that my husband cooks… guess what, ladies? Just like the vacuum cleaner, the oven is not controlled by my fallopian tubes. Give me a chance.”

—u/Practical_Cicada9429

3.“A guy I was dating gave me a double blowjob… Then he started getting dressed and said, ‘I hope you’re ready for more of that next week, honey.’ And then he winked at me.”

“This guy was completely sober and his delusions really thought he was doing the right thing.”

—u/ava1010xx

4.“My outings with the kids are amazing, with people complimenting me and even offering extra help with many different things. My wife says her outings with the boys are waaaaay different from what I see.”

—u/swanny625

5.“When I was 12, I complained that my brother always did his chores badly, but mine had to be perfect.”

“My mom made me redo his, even the harder things like mowing and trimming the lawn.” —u/smilegracesmile

6.“I was on a second date with a guy and I let him know that I wasn’t going to sleep with him. He still said he was going to take me home. When we got to my house, I let him in and when he left my apartment, he saw that I had this thing that needed to be installed. He immediately said that he could get it for me if I wanted, and I remember just being in shock and not being able to speak.”

“I wasn’t ready for a man to be nice without the promise of sex.” —u/alotofpisces

7.“I realized I was surprised that he didn’t require me to be hairless all the time, like my exes did.”

—u/minty_dinosaur

8.“My tall brother carries his toddler more than his wife, and my aunt thinks she’s a lazy mother because of it. My cousin was shocked to learn that he changes his child’s diapers.”

—u/carobcake

9.“At the beginning of my relationship with my partner, he would initiate things like cooking dinner and cleaning up afterward. I thanked him profusely for his thoughtfulness.”

“He was shocked that it was such a big event for me.” —u/conscious_problems_70

10.“When I was dating, I expected a man to have a job, a house, a car, and be independent like me. Finding a man who actually had these basic needs was like finding a needle in a haystack.”

—u/MyHonestOpnion

11.“My husband brought me a cup of coffee when I was working from home and I was on a Zoom call, and people on the call were literally like, ‘Wow, girl, you beat him up!’ And, ‘Where do I get this kind of service?’”

“It’s something I appreciate, but he’s not saving the world, right?” —u/destria

12.“The number of men who brag that they’ve never assaulted anyone like that deserves brownie points. Congratulations on not being a predator and a criminal, I guess?”

—u/crazynekosama

13.“I’m 37 and I started dating my husband when I was 29. I remember telling him a few months later, ‘Wow, you’re the only guy I’ve dated who’s been nice to me.’”

“He didn’t necessarily do anything above and beyond expectations, but the fact that he didn’t act like he didn’t care was something.” —u/steff-you

14.“I was having a really rough week and my boyfriend made me lunch one day. He literally put some leftovers in a Tupperware for me. Everyone at work told me what a great guy he was for doing that. They literally talked about it for a year.”

“If they saw him at a work meeting, they would bring it up.” —u/apostate456

15.“After dating exclusively women in my 20s, I started dating men. It was then that I realized how much I had to lower my standards of basic human decency if I actually wanted to be in a relationship with a man.”

“It got to the point where I said, ‘If this guy asks me more than three questions about myself on this date, I’m going on a second date.’ —u/winooskiwinter

How does it sound to live in that man’s world right now?? Yeah, I’m scared too. Tell us your horror stories in the comments! If we work together, we can trick men into being average at best, one day at a time.